Thoughts from The Queen Bee

End of the Year Panic

October is the first month of the last quarter of the year, and a time to look back on the year to see how many of your goals you’ve accomplished, and look forward to determine your path for the rest of the year.

If you’re like most of us, you had grand plans at the beginning of 2015, maybe in the form of New Year’s resolutions like losing 25 pounds or quitting smoking. If you’re an entrepreneur like me, you may have had ambitious business goals, launching a website, opening a bricks and mortar locations, or perhaps increasing sales on existing platforms.

Many of us are now looking back, thinking “where did the year go?”

The reality is that setting goals is not enough. We need to set realistic goals with measurable results. If your ultimate goal is to lose 100 pounds in one year, how are you going to achieve that? You need to lose 2 pounds per week….that is a realistic target, but how are you going to do it? 

In order to reach your goal, you have to take that goal and support it with a workable plan. For weight loss, that would include some form of physical activity every day, and cutting out the daily pumpkin spice latte that has 8 teaspoons of sugar in every cup, or the evening junk food binge in front of the TV. However, that’s still not an actionable plan. You have to open up your calendar and schedule every visit to the gym, then actually meet those commitments. 

That’s the difference between setting a goal, and setting a goal supported by a plan to make it happen.

My goal to open a bricks and mortar location? Needs an actionable plan that would include scouting a viable location, and determining all the costs required to get the door open. An actionable plan requires that each step in that process have a specific timeline.

Look back on the plans you had for 2015, whether personal or business, and don’t just lament the fact that time got away from you, and you didn’t reach your goals. Ask yourself, “did I make a plan to reach the goals that I set?” If the answer is no, take this last quarter of 2015 to set realistic goals for 2016, supported by actionable plans, and you will not be in this same position at this time next year.

Now I’m off to make some plans….

So, I originally intended to do one post featuring Hallowe’en themed goodies from my fellow handcrafted entrepreneurs, but that somehow became two, and now three! 

This is absolutely, definitely, without question, the last in this series…well, for this year anyway! Can’t promise I won’t repeat the process next year, because it has been quite popular. Apparently people love Hallowe’en:)

Witches In The Woods Cold Process Soap from PumpleDaisy Soap Factory 

An earthy scent, and witches’ accessories; you can almost hear the “Double, double, toil and trouble” drifting out of the woods…

 Hallowe’en Collection Nail Polishes from Turtle Tootsies

Colours to coordinate with any costume you can dream up!

 Witch’s Brew Soy Candle from Candle Moments

Pretty sure no witch’s brew smells as good as these candles!

Apple Jack Cold Process Soap from After the Rayne

If you like to celebrate Hallowe’en, but aren’t into spooky, ghoulish decor, why not add a touch of Halloween colours instead?

Hallowe’en Limited Edition Melt & Pour Glycerin Soap from L’Aura Botanicals

The fun, whimsical side of Hallowe’en! Perfect for your guest bathroom…

 Psycho Hallowe’en Bleeding Cold Process Soap from Three Changos

Channel your inner Norman Bates with this creepy selection!

Creeping Horror Glycerin Soap from Paintbox Soapworks 

Don’t warn your guests about this one, and wait to hear the reactions…

 I’ve always enjoyed Hallowe’en, but growing up in rural Northern Ontario where houses can be miles apart, trick or treating was not a big part of my life. 

When I moved to Toronto, I lived in apartments where I never really thought about giving out candy. Then I started to help my friend decorate her house for Hallowe’en, and the rest is history. We did it for several years, and by the time we stopped, it was a major production that involved prepping for at least two weekends in advance, and took us most of the afternoon to set up. 

We dressed as witches, and delighted in the wide eyed wonder of the littlest ones, and successfully getting a rise out of the “too cool to be scared” preteens with black spider webs, artfully hidden!

My friend’s large Victorian house has been sold now, and it has been several years since we “did” Hallowe’en, but I have a feeling that one of these years I will be dusting off my witch’s hat and giving it another go.

In the meantime, I delight in all things Hallowe’en on the web, and wanted to share some that I’ve found this year.

Black Lipstick from Kiss Freely  

No Hallowe’en is complete without the perfect black lipstick, and this creamy delight is vegan and paraben free.

unDead Sea Mud Cold Process Soap from Emerson Handcrafted Natural Soaps

It might not keep the unDead away, but you’ll smell great while trying to avoid them!  

Evil Eye Cold Process Soap from Daily Repose Handcrafted Soap

Not sure if this one is supposed to ward off the Evil Eye or inflict it, but it’s downright creepy!

What A Tangled Web Cold Process Soap from Honest Roots Farm

This fun and yummy scented soap is the perfect touch for your guest bath during your Hallowe’en party!

Rat Tail Cold Process Soap from Sun Basil Garden Soaps

Okay, I am totally creeped out by rats and refuse to accept that they live in our cities, but this is just too well executed to ignore.

Graveyard Cold Process Soap by Hell Flower Soap Co.

Always a good idea to stay out of graveyards on Hallowe’en lest you run into one of these creepy critters!

Each year I’m determined that this will be the year I make some spectacular Hallowe’en themed soaps and potions, but each year the short period of time between end of market season and start of Christmas season defeats me, and I am once again theme less 😦

However, I truly love Hallowe’en, and am in awe of the creativity that abounds among my fellow handcrafted bath and body artisans.

So this year I decided to feature some of their amazing creations in my blog, and link directly to where you can purchase them. They are all awesome, so in completely random order:

Candy Corn Soap from A Slice of Delight

This fun glycerin melt and pour soap perfectly captures the colours of Candy Corn, with no calories!

Hallowe’en Natural Lip Balms from Wunder Budder

Full Moon, Black Rose, No Tricks, Just Treats or Samhain…..hard to choose just one so why not grab all 4?

Zombie Repellent Cold Process Soap from Halo Soap

Don’t leave home without it!!product/prd2/4320244515/*special-edition*-zombie-repellent

Finally, chasing zombies and ghouls is no excuse for a bad manicure so check out:

LeHallowee’en Mani Fizzes from Paint Box Polish

Add a little fun to your Hallowe’en grooming today!

If you do a google, etsy, or Facebook search for “handmade soap”, you’ll find thousands of gorgeous bars, each lovingly handcrafted by soap artisans around the world. Unfortunately, not every soap we make turns out the way we envisioned it.

Mica can morph from pink to blinding orange, fragrance oils can discolour the soap (hello vanilla) or accelerate the process so fast that you end up with what we Soapmakers lovingly refer to as “soap on a stick”. We blame these mishaps on the soap gremlins that sometimes move into your house and wreak havoc on everything you touch.

So today I’m showing you the dark, dirty, hidden side of soapmaking….the fails!

This fragrance oil turned my beautiful blue soap into an ugly grayish purple, and also accelerated it so much that I had to plop and push it into the mold.

It eventually turned back to dark blue, but the bar was full of air holes, so I chopped it into cubes and added it into a new batch.
This pile is what happens when you wait too long to cut your salt bars. You have to cut them when the soap is still so hot that it almost burns your finger, which for me is about an hour after pouring in the molds. With this batch I was 15 – 20 minutes late, and this crumbly mess was the result….still fantastic soap, but destined only for my own shower, not for customers.
 Here for your viewing pleasure is the aforementioned “soap on a stick”. Many fragrance oils, especially some florals and spices will react when you add them to your raw soap batter, causing them to seize almost instantly.

INSERT PHOTO (Okay, surprisingly I don’t seem to have a picture of this! If any of my Soapmaking cohorts would like to add one into the comments below, that would be great.)

Then we have an example of what happens when you soap too hot when using honey. Anything that contains sugar, be it honey, milk, beer etc, heats up like crazy in the soap causing cracking, volcanoes (yes it does exactly what it sounds like!) and other messes. Usually when I make my oatmeal and honey soap, I premix my lye solution and let it cool down completely overnight before mixing the soap. This time, I forgot and poured it in while it was still around 200 degrees F. Oops. Totally unsalvageable.

For comparison, this is what it should look like!

Finally, we have my newest Christmas soap. I had such a vision for this one: just enough fir needle to make you think of the holiday without feeling like you’d been slapped in the face with a Christmas tree. A touch of frankincense and myrrh for warmth and depth. Just a kiss of vanilla to brighten the blend. It smelled divine. Unfortunately I made two mistakes with this one: I didn’t stir my palm oil well enough, which left small spots of undissolved stearic acid in the soap (you can see them easily because the vanilla formed little circles around them), and I didn’t use enough colorant to cover up the rather unattractive beigey green caused by the vanilla and Frankincense & myrrh fragrance oils. Sigh.

The good news is that one of my guinea pigs (er, I mean good friend and valued consumer tester) just PMd me that this is her favourite fragrance of all my soaps, and believe me she’s tried most of them! I happen to agree….it smells divine, so will make its debut this Christmas as Winter Solstice, without the spotty complexion, and a beautiful deep green, I think. Watch for its unveiling soon!

So the next time you see a beautiful handmade soap, think about not only the hours spent on formulating the perfect recipe, and envisioning the design, but also the dozens of test batches and disheartening fails that led to that gorgeous bar. Behind every bar of handcrafted soap is a soapmaker who puts his or her heart and soul into every batch.

Silver Fox?

 A couple of days ago I did a post about always presenting a polished and professional image as you went about your day to day business. One of the questions I posed was “are my roots showing?”

My family is blessed with thick, naturally curly hair that we don’t lose as we get older, but the trade off is that we go grey early. At age nineteen I saw the first strands of what was to become a distinctive white streak at the front of my hairline, which is a genetic mutation passed down from my mother. I affectionately referred to it as my witch’s streak, and I would most probably have been burned for a witch if I had the misfortune of living in Salem in the 1600s.

Fortunately, I don’t, so it has been an oddity that has mostly been disguised by hair colour over the years, and I was never too perturbed when it started to grow in again from the roots. However, at some point over the last 10 years, other things started growing in from the roots…..yes, the dreaded grey hair! Now I have been blessed genetically with grey hair that is actually silvery white, so it is rather an attractive colour. That doesn’t mean I was ready to go grey.

So, over the past several years, I have fought the good fight, held the line, and refused to give into the inevitable. Unfortunately, I have also been blessed with hair that grows quite quickly, so every two weeks, I start to develop a white stripe right down the middle of my head….no-one can rock the skunk look!

After much deliberation, I have decided to embrace my silvering hair, and am letting the colour grow out. This means daily ponytails to disguise the “skunk” stripe until my hair is long enough that I can cut the colour off without looking like I’ve been given a military haircut, which looks stunning on supermodels, but on me? Not so much.

While I wait for “the big cut”, I’ve been looking at images of celebrities who have gone for the grey, and it’s beautiful. What do you need to rock the look? A beautiful smile, a little more makeup than I’ve worn in years (white/grey hair can leave you looking washed out) and for me, a new pair of bold funky glasses.

So wish me luck, and watch for my new profile pick in the near future….maybe for Christmas?

Stop The Merry-go-round!

imageI’m told that a natural part of aging is noticing how quickly time seems to fly by. When we were kids, summer lasted FOREVER! These days it seems like the season has barely begun before it’s over.

With this perceived hastening of time, comes our sense of panic at not being able to fit everything we need to do into our day. How many of us dutifully sit down and draw up our To Do List, which we’ve been reassured is the key to organizing our lives and Getting Things Done, only to look at that list with a sinking feeling, realizing that there is too much list, and not enough us!

This leads us into the ever so popular coping strategy known as Multi-Tasking. Some tasks are ideal for multi-tasking: folding laundry while watching TV or chatting on the phone with a friend, unloading the dishwasher while your coffee brews. This is how to use multi-tasking effectively. How not to use this strategy? Telling your significant other “of course I can stop and pick up your dry cleaning on my way home”, when you have already committed to picking up the kids, stopping to grab takeout for dinner before the kids hockey practice, and dropping by Staples to pick up the brochures you ordered for your next show.

The reality is, there are a finite number of hours in a day, and you can only fit a finite number of tasks into them. Trying to do too much leaves you exhausted, irritable and stressed, which leads to a depressed immune system, and ultimately any number of illnesses, which will bring you to a full stop.

As entrepreneurs, we may be filling multiple roles: businessperson, wife/husband, mother/father, girl guide/Boy Scout troop leader, friend, daughter/son, and so on. With so many diverse responsibilities demanding our attention, it is very easy to get shoved to the bottom of the list of priorities. There is always something more important to do than take care of yourself.

This can’t continue indefinitely. Ask yourself:

Am I ways exhausted?

Am I irritable?

Do I constantly have a headache?

Do I catch every bug that comes my way?

Am I depressed?

Your body is trying to tell you something: I’m in distress!

If we don’t learn to carve out some time for ourselves in our schedule, time dedicated to keeping us strong and healthy through physical activity, meditation, or just downtime to recharge our batteries, eventually we will be accomplishing nothing, because our bodies will force us to shut down.

So, what’s it going to be? 30 minutes a day of “me time” (an hour would be better, but you have to start somewhere), or a week in bed because your depressed immune system couldn’t fight off that nasty flu that’s going around?

Dress For Success

images (1)I have never deliberately considered this adage, but in hindsight I realize I have always dressed well in comparison to my associates. In high school, I spent more days dressed in skirts and heels than in jeans, and when I started working in the financial industry in Toronto, I always dressed above my level. This was not any deliberate plan to elevate myself above my peers….I just loved clothes. Or more precisely, I adored shoes, and bought the clothes to support my shoe addiction! I searched a long time for the dress to perfectly match my gorgeous teal suede pumps….oh, they were glorious!

It wasn’t until I had left the 9 to 5 world that I deliberately gave thought to this phrase. After several years of self-employment that saw me traveling the world representing our company, the bank crisis in December 2008 resulted in the loss of our financing, and with my go-to financial industry reeling, no-one was hiring.

With opportunity decidedly not knocking, and bills to be paid, I started a pet services company. I love dogs, dogs love me, and I was living in doggy central, so it was a no brainer. The company flourished, and I was healthy and happy, and 25 pounds lighter. Bonus!

One day while walking between clients, I saw another dog walker, and noticed that his attire was less than remarkable. I remember thinking to myself, “he looks like a dog walker”. Then I looked down at myself….jeans two sizes too big (that 25 pounds!), and a baggy sweatshirt. I looked like a dog walker!

Then came an epiphany….was I only a dog walker? No, I was an entrepreneur that owned a pet services business, and I was a walking advertisement for my business. You never know when you might meet your next client….what impression was I giving of my business, if I didn’t care how I looked?

I went home that night, sorted through my clothes and pulled out all of my baggy, tired, uninspiring clothes and tossed them out, or set them aside for donation. Then I went shopping. Nothing fancy….I still needed to dress practically for walking dogs, but my jeans could be size 10 not size 14, and no need to wear baggy sweatshirts and T shirts, when there were so many cute yoga tops and jackets available.

Did changing my wardrobe make me a better dog walker? No. What it did was give me the confidence that I was representing my company in a polished and professional way to any potential clients I might encounter on my daily route.

I still run that pet services company, and still walk dogs on a daily basis. However, I now also run a handcrafted bath and body business, so I also need to be aware that I could encounter customers or potential retail partners at any moment.

Grooming is more essential. I can’t have long fingernails, but are they neatly clipped and polished? When was the last time I had a haircut? Are my roots showing?

Murphy’s Law guarantees that the moment you run to the grocery store in pajama pants and Uggs, with your hair in a messy ponytail, you will run into the buyer for that store you’ve been trying to get your product into for 6 months.

Being a handcrafted entrepreneur usually means we are the sole labourer, a jack of all trades. Many of us are holding down full time jobs while trying to get our business off the ground. Many are wives and mothers. With all that going on, very often it is you that end up at the bottom of the priority list, and thinking about our image can seem so unimportant, compared to the countless balls you have in the air.

I understand….but do yourself a favour; look in the mirror every day and ask yourself….would I buy handcrafted bath and body products from me? If the answer is “no”, then it’s time to move yourself to the top of that list and fix whatever needs ‘fixin’ to allow you to feel confident that you represent your business in a professional and polished manner.


How many times have you heard the saying, “if I knew then what I know now”…followed by any number of endings?

I started thinking about what advice or knowledge I would pass along to teenage girls that would save them the painful process of learning it for themselves, and came up with the following, in no particular order:

Being Shy Will Get You Nowhere.

I was painfully shy as a child and teenager, and it was only once I left school, started my first job and was forced to put myself out there that I realized most of the people who seem to have it together and exude confidence are really just better at hiding their insecurities. Next time you’re in a situation where you don’t know anyone, take a deep breath and look around. You’ll probably see someone else lurking on the sidelines looking as uncomfortable as you feel. Walk up and introduce yourself….trust me, they will be very happy that you did, and now it’s two of you against the world, not just one!

Beauty Really Is In The Eye Of The Beholder.

Don’t waste time comparing yourself to women on TV or in magazines. TV and movie actresses have a whole army of makeup and stylists helping them to look good on screen. Those women don’t look anywhere near as good in real life, and magazines air brush photos to remove every blemish, wrinkle and bulge. If you ask 10 men (not hormonal teenage boys) to point out the most beautiful woman in the room, you’ll probably get 10 different answers, and they won’t all look like supermodels. They may have a gap between their teeth, wear glasses, carry a few extra pounds, or snort when they laugh. Happiness is beautiful, intelligence is beautiful, being interested in the people you meet is beautiful. Be strong, be healthy, and be happy, and you will be beautiful, inside and out.

High School Is Not Life.

Truly….for most of us high school was the worst time of our lives. Shy, self-conscious, afraid to be different, to be ourselves. There is a great, big, beautiful world waiting for you, where you can be yourself…be whatever you can imagine, without worrying about what the “popular” crowd thinks of you. Unlike high school, where you’re trapped with the same group of kids from year to year, in the real world you get to pick who you want to have in your life!

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff!

Seriously…. 5 years from now no-one, most especially you, is going to care if you had a pimple on prom night, or if you got invited to the party of the year, or if you only got 95 on your exam instead of 100. Be kind to yourself….you don’t need to be perfect, just be the best you that you can be. Just you is more than enough.

Your thoughts?


Good morning, all! BumbleBee Lane SoapWorks is in the thick of Christmas planning, and we could use your help…

Please leave us a comment telling us which of these fragrances you would like to see under your Christmas tree this year in our Deluxe Body Butter and Sugar & Shea Scrub…


Chocolate Mint

Sugar Cookie

Pumpkin Pie

Candy Cane


We will be randomly selecting one commenter to receive a Gift Set in the winning fragrance.

Thank you and happy Saturday!

Mike Michalowicz

Thoughts from The Queen Bee


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